Knowing your Facebook Lists From Your Groups

Dear Cybersorter,
I didn’t want my Facebook friends from work to see my photos so I took your advice and made a friends list. Except I made a group rather than a friends list and all my work colleagues got a mail asking them if they wanted to join my group “Prying Busy Bodies”.
I think I’ve managed to pass it off as a joke but the atmosphere in my workplace has cooled significantly.
I wanted to alert your readers to this easy mistake and ask you why the hell you didn’t point this out in your previous columns?
JW

Dear JW,
Surprisingly, I have some sympathy for your situation. I am unfortunately familiar with the stomach-churning moment of discovering I’ve made a social faux pas. It happens because the flight response has been triggered and you receive a dose of adrenalin to enable you to run away from the rage you have provoked in another animal.
In this case you have taunted the grizzly bear that resides in the cubicle next you, and presumably, the giant mummy bear in the boss’s office.
I will forgive your wild wagging of the finger of blame as you are obviously still licking your self-induced social wounds. It was your choice to label your group with an insult. The best advice to anyone and everyone in general, when it comes to using social media, is to be aware that anything you do on it may become public, most likely by your own hand and possibly by technical hitch.
To make a friends list you click on “friends” on the left-hand side of your home page. Then click “Edit friends” and “Create a list”. To make a group you click on “Create Group”.